I found the good video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNXZOnf5NNk
The TFT is in the esp32-S3 release on the meshtastic github! included on 2.7.14 and above.
The problem with my unit is it starts a reboot loop when I install the firmware. I can tell because the device is detected over and over in the device manager and I hear the tone of device connect.
This is without a battery.
EDIT: I did get the flash to work and it does not bootloop. I can connect with bluetooth so I believe the firmware is good but still no display. the screen is on, from the glow but the UI, old or new, does not display.
EDIT SOLUTION:
The meshcore flash removed the littlefs. To get it working again I first flashed the littlefs file, then the factory file and selected Erase First. Using the meshtastic web flasher worked.